How did i start understanding how to ask God these kinds of questions about obtaining more fullness in life? When we started having children, I remember one Father’s Day, Amanda, my older daughter was four years old. We were in a church that day, and they’re acknowledging fathers, and I have my arm around my daughter’s shoulders. It dawns on me all of a sudden that I’m actually a father. had been I’ve for four years. I had three children in all. All of a sudden, it grips me that I’m not just functioning as a father, I actually am a father. All of a sudden, my heart breaks wide open for my children, and I realize what an honor to be given this responsibility, to be a father.
Since I had no modeling of this when I was growing up, I didn’t know that there was this kind of joy in fathering children. When a culture talks about children, you can have them but you don’t know how to manage them or relate to them in the best way. They can even start to feel like some kind of a pain in the neck at times. So we can slip into a gear where we want to get them through the teenage years, and hope they somehow turn out alright by and by when they finally, magically become adults. None of that’s biblical, and none of that’s even healthy. The reality of it is that as adult men and women, we have been given the great honor of having children is an expression of God shoot beautiful arrows of His love back to you as you raise them. (See Pslams 127:4,5.)