Winning Hearts Flows Out Of Relationship


When some of us first learn to do this thing called evangelism, what we usually do is something like walk up to people and without knowing them, without being kind to them and without even relating to them, we basically propose marriage to them with a third Party without even us knowing them or them knowing us.

Can you imagine me meeting my future wife for the first time and thinking “Well, I want to get married, so I’ll just go for it.” I don’t do any other relationship dynamic. I just walk up to her and say “Hey, you’re a girl. I’m a guy. I want to get married. I know you do at some point. Let’s just go ahead and do that.” You’re thinking “Where’s the relationship? Where’s the knowing of each other? Where is all that?”

Sometimes when some of us try to share Christ, we don’t realize we’re doing the same thing. We’re skipping the relationship dynamic .We’re not modeling what God is like. We’re trying to get people to come into a covenant relationship, to have a relationship with Someone without seeing what the Person is like.

Isn’t this amazing? You and I get to be the person that says “This is what God is like” by how gentle and kind we are.


There are two forms of kindness that I want to share to you as we look at this.

The first one is kindness by action. This is communicated by how we live our everyday life. By how we conduct our everyday activities we are communicating what kindness is like.

We also have a picture that gentleness and kindness is by what we speak.

In fact, I want to share a Scripture on this:

“The Lord’s servants must not quarrelsome but must be kind to everyone, able to teach and not resentful” (2 Timothy 2:24).

Listen to what it says in this Bible passage. It says the Lord’s servants must not quarrel. Instead we are to be kind to everyone, able to teach and not resentful. The Apostle Paul is saying in effect, “We are not to come into situations where we allow ongoing conflict. We are to have a standard not to quarrel and fight with each other.
We are  to show kindness to each other and be able to talk to people and not be resentful.”

I’m amazed that the Lord picks this concept up of not being resentful and not quarrelling because this is what the human race ends up doing most of the time, including tragically some in the community of faith. We don’t see eye to eye on something, so we fight with each other. We quarrel with each. Then we become resentful towards each other.



About the Author:

I am the Chairman and CEO of Plumbline Ministries, the ministry has been around the world for 20 years, teaching and equipping people in the ministry of Jesus to transform families and friends. I have been married to my wife,Kellie, for thirty-two years. We have three children. We live outside of Kansas City, Misssouri.

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